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women think that men are louts.

the truth is, there are atleast SOME men who have turned loutish.
driven by women who treat them like animals even when they are not.
and heap the blame of some other idiot , some crass zombie onto us.

finally tired of being a sensitive man , an outcast among the butt-pinching, breast ogling men, and an outcast from women who treat them as some kind of wet-wipe, to be tossed away amidst the garbage once the next idiot comes along.

back

long time no rant.

the other day, we had another of the brainmashing sessions at work. one and a half hours of monotonous droning on about how great The Co. did. yeah right, but that still meant you shit all over our appraisals. and the head got a new cabin.

all the best people are almost gone. the moment i get another place so will i, i've decided.

anyway, the post was about a trainee who joined 20 months ago. He was asked to speak about his project and said

1. we had tight timelines.
2. we had no knowledge of the technology used.
3. the client kept changing his/her mind about what he/she wanted.

we all laughed heartily at that. because buddy, thats like ALL the projects i've ever executed. misplanned. overpromised. underdelivered. and leaving a bad taste in my mouth that working 6 days a week for 11 hours each for 5 months, the product shows the brainmashed nature of the people executing it.

NOT because we did a bad job, but because we were pushed to fight heavily armed warmachines with matchsticks.

This blog is sort of my dark-side.

An attempt to escape this whole concept that I'm a nice guy who deserves to be used, and then discarded like recycled face wipes.

sort of like an extended rant-platform.

on the latest, i managed to ditch one of the 'nice girls , bad guys' type of my acquaintances by acting like a total jerk.

true to form, she lost her temper, told me to never call or message again. which is just fine by me.
with due credit to my 'nice' side... i did try to call her, but i guess its just as well she didnt answer the phone. i WOULD have let her know what i felt about being used for the last five odd years.

Putting things out clearly

inspired by Arnold who left a comment on this post of mine .........

I have a thing against sensible and non-airheaded women having this thing about having their eyes open and walking into relationships which are so obviously not working.

i guess i should stress that it isnt the girls i'm trying to make out as bitches, its the sheer frustration that such total bastards would end up using these girls, and that these intelligent, self-aware girls would LET themselves be used.

yes, i realise that it makes me sound angry, and i dont intend this post to somehow justify that emotion.

I used to believe that one is supposed not to let one's friends walk into the path of a onrushing train.

but i've realised (since the last post , hence the lack of posts therein) that part of being friends is letting them be run over .... its all about Freedom of Choice ....

confusion

what is with girls liking mean guys? i mean they KNOW they are going to be used and hung out to dry and the girls still prefer them over the nicer people.

two of the girls i know like mean guys.

must be some repressed sado-maschoistic impulse that makes them.

equality?

(this is by no means a generalisation, there are very professional women, and they dont fall into the stereotype described herein)

(Friday evening)
Scene : deadline nearing
Head(H) : "Everyone must work over the weekend! We have a crunch situation, we need to prove ourselves to the customer"

Female Coworker 1(FC1) : my husband wants to take me to for the weekend for a wedding in his family.
H: ohh hahahaha so lucky . Go by all means!

Female Coworker 2(FC2) : My mum in law is in town over the next three weeks. i cant come over the weekend.
H: *nodding to self* ohh yes, i too want my wife to be treatings my Maather with respuckt. please give your MIL my regards.

Me: I have some important bank work thats overdue.
H: ohhh nonono ... you have to come, you have to set an example for the younger entrants in the team ! look at me, i bought and im working from home too! (yeah like Excel takes a lot of brainpower?) defer your work, ill give you any day off next week, except we have a deadline next week, so i cant give you any day off till (4 months from now)

--- Equality ? what equality ?

where are all the sensible professional women coworkers ?

now and here

i am a good guy. doesnt mean that i can take shit lying down indefinitely.

when men feel frustrated, they cry sometimes. more often than not we happen to rail at fate, at our circumstances.
we feel insecure too.

to You, nameless silent one.

If i feel enraged that you have such a hard time REPLYING, and then have the gall to tell me "i was too busy", does that make me unreasonable and uncaring and insensitive?

or does that just make you a ogress ?

Just reply "i dont want to talk to you" , your stupid mindgames give your gender a bad name! (and i know GOOD people of your gender, not to appear biased or sexist or anything)

i know that i matter less than anything in your world, but do you HAVE to rub it in so ?

--

i realise you are busy, you have your work to do, and your friends and your life.

but am i not your friend too ? am i not part of your life?

its beastly hot.
it was horribly cold.

serves me right .
for letting those morons cut down the trees and level the green fields so that they could earn more money.

dratted emotions

i dont want to be ; but it appears i am.
besotted with the fact that i am unmarried.

call it peer pressure or the fact that all the nice girls i know are getting married one after another.

i just dont feel right. i just dont fit.

i want to and yet i dont want to. but im confused and unsure and scared.
and there's no answers. only the hollow question.

emotional charge

why do guys have to go after many girls at a time?

it is the law of statistical averages - especially if the guy in question is not
1. a filthy rich brat
2. poor but dazzlingly suave and great looking.

chances are the girls WILL put you off by saying "i dont get the spark from you" (what am i, an electrical transformer?) , "i'd be pleased if you did ask me but i dont feel the attraction" (now im a electrical transformer SUPERMAGNET?)

of all the shit things to say.
honestly, the worst has to be "ohh you're so nice, im sure the girl who finds you will be super lucky"(oh yeah? why dont you just say "sorry no change, move on!")

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i dont want your pity, all i want is your company, devotion, love, understanding, for the rest of my life.

and i shall return it all , ten times over.

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Kind of Women to Stay Away From

(hopefully this is the Non- MCP version)

or maybe you can consider it the Nice But Losing It Guy version
unlike This mostly Biased version

1. Women on the Rebound , i'm talking about the kinds who would NOT get attracted to you if you were the last Man on earth - if the Rebounder is a long time friend, it doesnt hurt if she doesnt mind.

2. Women with a really severe Money Spending Problem (unless she's earning it and burning it on things that do NOT involve both of you, or some genuine crisis issue)


3. Animated Mannequins With No Brains (this is true if you have a fair amount of brains) /Career Women (this is true if you are a Male Airhead)


4. Women who disrespect their own parents , if you are a Man who respects his own parents.


All above said and done, the responsibility in ANY relationship goes both ways. Men and Women, both have to work at it , no use being MCP or Feminist about it being the fault of the Other Side.

if its a problem , its BOTH of you who need to look for a solution.

Work Questionnaire

how many months have you been in your current job ?

how many months have you been feeling disgruntled or obsolete?

what are the reasons you would leave if any ?

when opportunity strikes

i detest men who think women are objects to be described in demeaning terms.
once i used to try and change them. nowadays i just only barely tolerate the company of such men.maybe they think that carrying a penis somehow makes me like them.

when i told her, she said "you are one of the good guys". well , inspite of me being one of the good guys the slimy guys described above are the ones having girlfriends or getting married.
--X--
she broke up with her guy.
i like her , but i will need some time to get to know if i can move ahead with telling her i adore her.

at the same time, i dont want to hurt her again if i am wrong.
but if i wait too long some OTHER guy is going to inveigle his way into her affection!
i want her to be happy, but since 2008 began , i want ME to be happy too!

being a good guy is sometimes so problematic!

on the one hand i dont want to be opportunistic, but i really do want to try and work it out with giving US a chance.

--X--

Weedingania

for the past three months or so, i have been visiting weedings like tomorrow.

of course you know what the word is but i call it weeding. the process of elimination of generally useful characters from the single world. rather contrary to the plant-related meaning of the word.

i realise this blog has descended into whole hearted cynicism, and frequent sarcastic digs at the world around me , but if that is the way it is, that is the way it is.

i fail to understand how some people can keep working at keeping together with someone who's evidently so wrong for them. i realise that Quarrels and Misunderstandings and Breakups and Reconciliations are part and parcel of relationships ... however this proclivity of some girls i generally adore to hang out with someone with whom they spend a vast majority disagreeing with, is totally beyond my (decidedly sub-par) male comprehension.

i may also be feeling miffed that they would choose that quarrelling, decidely non-poetic, unappreciative person over me. i guess the strife is the part of "the delicious frisson of excitement" that said girls find so fascinating.

some days i wish i was less of a 'caring understanding loving guy' if it meant i wasnt the guy being passed over.

i really hate it when some girl tells me 'have patience' . i want to scream , 'dont you get it ? i dont want to wait for some mythical possibly non-existent girl to show up, when all i want to do is be with YOU".

of late , trying to generate enough content to put on here , is not worth the effort.

after all, if no one reads it , is it really worth writing?